Swaying

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Swaying

Charlotte has one desire in life – she wants a daughter. But you can’t choose what you have… can you?

Desire soon turns to obsession as Charlotte embarks on a difficult and controversial journey to sway the odds to have a girl.

How far is she prepared to go, and at what cost?

‘Swaying’ is available from Amazon in paperback and ebook format: Here

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5.0 out of 5 stars ‘Please let it be a princess. Princess. Princess. Princess.’

By Grady Harp HALL OF FAME TOP 50 REVIEWER on October 23, 2017

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British author Lucinda Blanchard was born, raised and still lives on the Isle of Wight where in addition to caring for her family she enjoys backpacking around Australia. SWAYING is her debut novel.

Selecting a controversial topic on which to build a first novel indicates a young author with courage and creativity. ‘Swaying’ deserves defining before reading this fine novel. From the Internet we read, ‘The truth about swaying is that there is a science to it – a very complicated science at that. There have been many books written that completely dissect the functions of ovulation and conception (as well as pre-pregnancy) in order to effectively try for and have either a boy or a girl. There are many factors involved in swaying. The one seen as the most important is diet. There have been many diets developed for women trying to gender sway that you can look into. When you choose one for you (IG Diet, French Diet, Trivers Willard Hypothesis, etc) make sure that you follow it. The diet part of swaying is meant to help you alter, adjust, and maintain certain levels of your pH, minerals, and hormones, as different levels are needed for the conception of either a boy or a girl. Most of the swaying diets will have you take supplements that will help to keep your levels in certain zones more favorable to one sex or the other. You will also be required to take the pH of your cervical mucus and your partner’s sperm. As a female, you will have to keep tabs on your cervical mucus and actually gather it in your fingers so you can decide whether it is tacky, creamy, stringy etc. Some trials of swaying will also have you taste or smell the cervical mucus; saying that acidic mucus will produce girls while alkaline will produce boys. From there, changing your diets and partaking in things like douching (not regular douching, though) will help to prep the uterine environment to make it optimal for swaying…etc’

As Lucinda opens her book she offers a very personalized approach to the concept of swaying, in terms that make the reader identify with the conundrum. ‘The sperm charge about, zigzagging and bumping into one another. The picture is magnified, each cell the size of a baked bean but with a thin tail attached, flicking erratically. I switch off the television, my jaw tight. Designer Baby! As if choosing the gender is designing them. It’s not as if you are determining their appearance – blonde hair, blue eyes, no garish birth marks, straight white teeth, small ears that don’t protrude like a trophy cup. Not one of the women mentioned looks, intelligence or personality – they were just hoping for a he or a she. I pace into the kitchen, my hands supporting my bulging belly. Why is the stupid biased debate bothering me anyway? Making people who have a
preference out to be selfish and ungrateful! Should they be ashamed of their hopes? The whole thing was ridiculous. But why do I feel uncomfortable? Is the reason I didn’t want to find out the sex of my baby because I can’t face up to my own disappointment? Of course not. I’m not like those people on the TV programme. I walk back to the lounge, suddenly annoyed at myself for being so impulsive in switching it off. I turn it back on and sit myself down, completely engrossed. Am I having a girl?’

SWAYING is about a mother’s obsession as she attempts to influence the gender of her unborn baby. Charlotte has one desire in life – she wants a daughter. She embarks on a difficult and controversial journey that impacts her sanity, her marriage, her two sons happiness and her friend’s life. The story focuses on family dynamics and covers gender disappointment, high tech at home swaying, PGD (pre-implantation genetic diagnosis – basically IVF but testing the embryos for gender too), abortion, gender scans and the many feelings gender disappointment brings.

Not only is the topic of this novel compelling, but Lucinda’s masterful manner of handling the story gives evidence of an important new author surfacing in our midst. This is a very fine debut novel. Grady Harp, October 17

3.0 out of 5 stars Southside Book and Writers Club book of the month

By Kim Durham on September 16, 2017

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This book was hard for me to read and much harder for me to review. Swaying deals with a mother’s wants and needs, concerning the sex of their child. The man character Char, went through great lengths to conceive a girl, even thinking about terminating a pregnancy because the sex of the child was not what she wanted.
Charlotte was obsessed with wanting a girl, this obsession ruined her marriage and almost destroyed her life. For readers who are interested in what not to do, or the signs and systems of a love one going to far. Please read this book and get them some help. Do not let your loved one end up like the character Bella.
The storyline flowed and the author gave you plenty of scientific information to follow. I gave this book three stars, because it was difficult for me to read and comprehend what this woman was willing to do and who she was willing to sacrifice.

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book that will keep you wanting more!

By Amazon Customer on August 17, 2017

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I will start by saying, I am not much of a reader. I tend to start books, and it is almost a chore to finish them. Swaying was completely different! Every time I put it down, I couldn’t wait to sit back down later and read more. Very well written, an easy read, and such a good story line that keeps the reader interested.

4.0 out of 5 stars Four Stars

By Shona Eveleigh on 2 May 2017 Australia

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Great book. Very realistic and relatable.

4.0 out of 5 stars I really enjoyed this book
on 18 July 2017
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This was a free book I picked up from Amazon. I had never even heard of the Author and now I am left wondering why.
I really enjoyed this book, it was easy to read, the characters were relatable and it was about a subject that I hadn’t really thought about before.
I didn’t know gender swaying existed really before I read this book but the way the book is written it is obvious that Chars desperate for a baby girl. If you get the chance to read this then do. You won’t regret it.
on 14 June 2017
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Whoah. Very deep read!

I read this in one evening as I was hooked.
It’s a great time out from anyone overwhelmed with PH testing.. Ov checking and helps highlight the positive and negative side of swaying.

Fantastic read, will be recommending.

Swaying is emotionally charged

By Amazon Customer on 5 October 2016

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Gender swaying is not something I’ve ever come across before. Not wanting children is probably largely to blame, but I imagine it’s also a very taboo subject. Surely parents don’t really care whether they have a boy or a girl? They’re only happy that their child is healthy, right?

Well, no. Asking myself the hypothetical question “which would you prefer, boy or girl?”, my answer would be a very firm “girl”. I’d hate to raise a boy. But, since your chances are 50/50, what can you do to put the odds in your favour? You can sway.

Swaying refers to methods used by would-be parents who want a particular gender. From my limited research, it seems as if there are many options, including a change of diet, your PH levels, exposing yourself to positive or negative ions, and so on. There is, apparently, a science to it, though it is very complicated, and success rates are disputed. The science interests me, and I intend on looking into this further, simply to satisfy my curiosity.

Blanchard writes of this taboo and emotional subject with a steady hand. Charlotte is real, in her hopes and fears, her desperation and her love, and easy to connect with. Swaying is emotionally charged – Blanchard shows all sides to swaying, how it can affect the entire family, not just the parents, and just how deep that desperation can go.

Although Swaying has a dark, sad side, it is also strangely uplifting. To write about such a character will show so many people that they are not alone. Blanchard can touch the lives of swaying parents, and hopefully open up conversations about the practice. While some people who are unable to conceive may feel offended by the idea that some people will go to any lengths necessary to get a child of their chosen gender, I believe it’s important to tackle such views head-on, and bring them into the light.

There’s no shame in wanting a child of a particular gender, but, in Swaying, there were some deeper issues at play. Teaching people about swaying may help some people who feel desperate, alone, misunderstood, and it is for her honesty that Blanchard should be commended. Her writing is simple yet effective, cutting right to the heart of the matter, and leaving you exposed. I really felt for characters such as Charlotte and Bella, and those around them. Swaying is a triumphant debut.

4.0 out of 5 stars Entertaining quick read
on May 19, 2017
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Light, entertaining and relatable. This was a quick read that was entertaining and interesting. Whether you know about swaying before reading or not, I think every woman can relate to having a dream or idea of what their family will be like.

5.0 out of 5 stars good fast read 

By Dr.shalinion 15 May 2017

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it was certainly a different subject.. did not know anything about swaying and the desperate lengths people go about having a specific gender….
the relationship between the husband and wife is written well… everyone has their own personal limits…
lucinda has written the book well, good english, fast paced, hardly any swear words… would love to read more from her but hopefully where the main character is not so crazed and more strong n sensible…

5.0 out of 5 stars Couldn’t put the book down.

By Amazon Customer on 6 May 2017

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What a genuine, real to life journey of a mother desperately living with the urge to have a daughter. The honesty relates to so many women, especially on a topic that isn’t openly spoken about often. It demonstrates the real world parents can face when wanting a particlar gender to complete their family. The ups, the downs and everything in between – I couldn’t put the book down. It was like the author was reading my mind and putting it all into words on a page. Myself & I friend were reading this at the same time and each day we came to work to discuss the next bit! Funny, sensitive, desperation, family, friends and support. The perfect amount of everything needed all in one book. I’m so glad I came across this book! Thank you!

A great read, gripping

By Amazon Customer on 8 September 2016

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Perfect holiday read about an often taboo subject. Couldn’t put it down and can’t wait for the next exciting novel!!

Really interesting

By Lorraine Quinlan on 7 September 2016

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I never knew there was so much into “choosing” the sex of child.
This was a really interesting book. I have one of each boy and girl and never really was bothered with gender. But I know of people who are and I think it’s heartbreaking the lengths people will go to, to get the right gender. it’s nice how the end of the story turns itself around and she realises she’s happy with what she’s been given.
really nice story

Good read

By Amazon Customer on 31 August 2016

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Read this book in 1 day ….really enjoyed the story on a controversial subject…a lot of women are in this position

Five Stars

By Amazon Customer on 27 August 2016

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Fantastic reading couldn’t put it down and a matter close to my own heart!

Life changing decisions!

By Claire Leah on 27 August 2016

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Anyone who has had any struggles with pregnancy or decisions to have children will relate to what big choices you have to make and emotional changes that happen without realising it.

Well written and thought provoking

By Amazon Customer on 15 August 2016

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A really enjoyable read – although somewhat controversial in subject, it’s a topic that many could empathise with.

A controversial topic likely to split its readership

By Sarah Schneider on 9 August 2016

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The author explores what an obsession (in this case about the gender of her unborn child) can do to a woman, her relationships, and life choices. It is well written but I couldn’t connect with the topic, and found her motivation, where her obsession stems from, unclear. A theme like gender-obsession has to split the readership into those able to relate (and probably liking the story, which is the inner journey of the narrator), and those who can’t. Controversial topics can’t please every reader, and you’ll soon find out whether or not this is a read for you. Apart from the content, the narration as such is lovely, but lacks experience with story building, structuring, pacing, and could be tightened a lot (esp. the dialogue, which contains unnecessary small talk, and the retelling of events the reader just witnessed before). Overall, the writing is interesting and spotless grammar-wise, but the author could improve the quality of the read by using more “showing” than “telling” strategies in her narration. Overall, it is a book people will either love, or not be able to relate to.

A wonderful, thought-provoking read

By Neats on 25 June 2016

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Swaying is the moving story of one woman’s fixation to have a baby girl.

Charlotte (Char) is pregnant and is desperately hoping for a little girl, so when baby Luke makes his entrance into the world she’s secretly devastated. When she finds an online support group for other mothers who are disappointed with the gender of their babies it opens up a whole new world for her to explore. Topics such as gender disappointment, swaying, diets and what can only be described as diy science experiments quickly become a huge part of Char’s day to day life and it’s through the forums that she meets Bella, a mum to two boys, who also longs for a daughter.

When her husband Ian agrees to another baby Char’s hopes are raised and she manages to convince him to try some of the methods she’s researched so that she can hopefully realise her dream of holding Verity-May in her arms.

At first her new friend Bella is someone who Char can depend on for support but gradually it seems that there’s something about her that doesn’t quite add up and Char is disturbed by the lengths that Bella will go to to ensure that her next baby is a girl. Spending all her time concentrating on how she can fulfil her dream, Char appears to be overlooking the here and now and she finds herself in a situation she never thought possible.

Swaying is a superbly written book about a highly controversial and taboo subject. Lucinda Blanchard has obviously done a lot of research into the subject of swaying and in doing so she’s introduced me to a subject that I was totally unaware of. The facts are cleverly combined within the story so that as a reader I was able to fully understand the pressure some woman are prepared to put themselves under to try and guarantee the chosen sex of their unborn child. This was a captivating story with characters that are very easy to relate to, a subject matter that is dealt with sensitively and topped off with a light sprinkling of humour. I was genuinely engrossed by the storyline and I would definitely recommend this thought-provoking read regardless of whether or not you have children and I can’t wait to see what’s next from this very talented author.

An interesting read on a new topic!

By Ivy on 16 June 2016

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I can’t exactly pinpoint what exactly it was that intrigued me about Swaying, but I was intrigued nonetheless. If you’ve read any of my other book reviews, then you know that this isn’t my usual genre. However, I really did want to read this book. Not only because it was written by an author I’ve now gotten to know, but also because it was on a topic that I’d never heard of.

To be honest, I had no idea that “swaying” was even a thing, or that there were people that genuinely dealt with gender disappointment. I think in that sense, this book was very well researched and educational.

I saw that some of the other readers thought that they would have trouble connecting with the characters, if they didn’t have children themselves. However, that was not the case for me. I grew up wanting children, but I’ve learned with each diagnosis that it might just not be in the cards for me right now. I was able to connect with some of the characters in the form of emotions rather than actual circumstances.

I actually think that since I’ve begun coming to terms with the possibility of not having children, I was able to connect with Rose a lot too. I agreed with a lot of the points that she made throughout the book and I very much liked her character. I also envied her for the time she got to spend with her horses, I always wanted a horse…or twelve.

In the beginning of the book, I really didn’t like Bella. I began leaning towards Ian’s opinion of her, but then I didn’t like him very much either. All of a sudden things reversed. I started understanding Bella more and liking Ian less. Although I haven’t been through Bella’s trials or agree with some of the decisions that she made, I understand the reasons she made them and the emotions behind them. I don’t want to say any spoilers, but she and I struggled with similar things.

On the topic of the books beginning, I was very confused when I started reading the book. I don’t know if it was from one of my previous conversations with Lucinda or something I read earlier, but I thought the book started later in the main characters life. I didn’t think that it would span over the course of a few years. However, that could also be my preferred genre sneaking in. Most of the books that I read are turned into trilogies or even longer series. So just know that this book does span over a long length of time, of course it doesn’t feel that way though!

If you didn’t know, Lucinda lives in the United Kingdom. I didn’t think that I would have any trouble reading this book as we speak the same language, but I did notice a lot of differences in our terms and style of writing. I actually have an iPhone screen page of words and phrases that we either don’t use in the U.S. or they mean something else here. It was pretty easy to figure out what they meant with the help of context clues, but there were a couple that had me stuck!

As for the style differences, I think those are just the different ways that we use certain words in our sentence structure. I also noticed that Lucinda uses single quotation marks while most of the authors that I read use double quotation marks; and she chooses not to use serial commas. Of course, those are her style choices and they are 100% up to her. These style choices do not add or take away anything from the actual content of the book, but I like to review all aspects of each book 🙂

As I mentioned earlier, this book seemed to be very well researched. While I did not double check the proper procedures, it really did feel like you were along for the ride. You felt the emotions of the characters in the book and you experienced their highs and lows with them. There were a lot of doctors appointments and swaying tasks, but I never felt lost. This is particularly important since I don’t have any children, nor have I ever been pregnant. Lucinda writes in a way that is both informative as well as easy to understand.

Usually when I pick up a book on a new topic, I have trouble reading it quickly. My brain has to process it as it would a text book; it needs to soak in the information slowly and let it marinate like a steak. However, that wasn’t the case with Swaying. I actually finished this book in just four sittings, it was just a matter of finding the time to actually sit down and read the book. Lucinda has a great way with words and she really drew me in!

The only thing that I found a little bit disappointing with Swaying was a certain amount of predictability. I don’t want to give away any big spoilers, but there were definitely a few pieces of the story that I saw coming. However, I’d also like to take a moment to point out that there were some interesting plot pieces that I didn’t not see coming whatsoever!

Overall, Lucinda did a wonderful job with her debut novel. I would definitely recommend this book if you are interested in learning more about swaying or having children in general. I do recommend that you do not read this book if you find that you have a lot of emotional triggers. I know that there are a few controversial topics that could be upsetting to some readers.

To see her becoming more obsessed and irrational was eye opening a made me understand how easy it would be to make your life focus

By Jane Perry on 31 May 2016

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I read this debut book and thought it would be uninteresting to me but was completely drawn in to the mind of the main character. To see her becoming more obsessed and irrational was eye opening a made me understand how easy it would be to make your life focussed on this one objective whilst being blind to others needs. Good read. Well done.

Shocking insight into gender disappointment

By Bits about Books on 26 May 2016

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This psychological novel gives an insight into a controversial subject, the world of gender disappointment and gender desire. Charlotte is struggling with her desire to have a daughter, envisioning a life of a close mother/daughter bonding.

It is shocking to see just how far people will go to have their preferred gender baby, even so far as destroying the world around them. It is hard to empathise with Char as she embarks on yet another diet or scheme that will produce her baby girl.

Lucinda Blanchard has done a marvellous job of opening up a taboo, the hidden world of gender swaying by showing us all that Charlotte is going through, including the guilt and despair. Definitely worth reading!

Fantastic book!

By K.Dodd on 19 May 2016

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What a fantastic book, gender disappointment is such a tabbo subject but is very real.
Lucinda has clearly done her research and this is such a well written book, id highly recommend it.

It is a very good take on a controversial subject and there are surprises …

By Tondy on 11 April 2016

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It is a very good take on a controversial subject and there are surprises throughout. Very interesting.
Good luck to anyone with the determination to have a go – and good luck to Lucinda and her following novels.

It’s good to have a book about how a woman feels …

By Kim on 5 April 2016

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Such a powerful book! It’s good to have a book about how a woman feels when it comes to swaying. Swaying is real and a lot of us suffer from gender disappointment. I honestly read it in 1 day, couldn’t put it down. I would only wish that in the end I was like her and could get the gender I want. Thanks for sharing your book Lucy!

Controversial subject matter dealt with in a thought provoking and engaging debut

By Mrs. R. L. Dove on 1 April 2016

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As a woman who was challenged in the realms of fertility herself (I have PCOS) I found this book’s main character a bit annoying and selfish at times, but I think that this says more about my own journey and feelings about children than anything else. I personally think you should be grateful for any children you have, regardless of sex, but I had two boys, which I wanted, so maybe I would have felt differently had I been expecting a girl.
This book is controversial, well researched and very interesting. Some of the methods described in the Swaying process is mind boggling, and I feel that this book would be a great read for anyone having these feelings and wishes themselves. I found it a little slow to start, but I kept reading to the end. Everyone has an obsession at some point in their life, and the obsession and journey in this book is fascinating, sad and hard to read at times, and gets you thinking. We had some lively discussions in our house!

Loved it from start to finish

By Jennie on 27 March 2016

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Wow, captivating from the start…I couldn’t put it down. A fantastic read from a new author. Descriptive and kept me wondering what will come next. Even had a tear in my eye at the end. Would definitely recommend.

Fascinating subject for an excellent first novel

By Robert Shearer on 26 September 2015

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This was a fascinating first novel by a very talented writer. I did not know anything about this subject and was surprised how much it interested me. I started off disliking the main character but by the end of the book I could understand why she made certain decisions. The book was extremely well written and I enjoyed the suspense around the plight of the main character’s friend.

A fantastic story about one women’s obsession to have a little …

By Vicky Brown on 22 September 2015

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A fantastic story about one women’s obsession to have a little girl and the strain and stresses it puts on her and her loved ones. A very thought provoking read into a subject that is generally taboo in today’s society.

A blooming good read! An interesting and thought provoking novel about …

By Lynne Pullar on 18 September 2015

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A blooming good read! An interesting and thought provoking novel about a subject I never knew existed. I am a SMOG (Smug Mother of Girl(s)) apparently according to some social media and it was refreshing to read a different perspective on mother/parenthood.

*you must read this book*

By Paula on 17 September 2015

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What an amazing book! Very well written, emotional but at times funny and certainly thought provoking. It opened my eyes to a topic which I didn’t fully understand or realise existed to such depths. Written from the heart and highly recommended.

The story is at times funny, and at times moving

By Frances Heath on 16 September 2015

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Swaying is a well-researched take on a controversial subject. I know many people who can understand the desire to have a baby of a particular gender, and ‘gender disappointment’ is a real issue. The story is at times funny, and at times moving, but is constantly entertaining.

Absolutely loved this book!

By Hazel Taylor on 8 September 2015

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Absolutely loved this book! I was hooked straight away. I have never read a book about this topic and it was very interesting. Well worth a read!!

Outstanding Debut Novel, Highly Recommend.

By Mary Grand Author of Free To Be Tegan on 6 September 2015

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A deeply emotional and well written novel that tackles a controversial subject with great insight and sensitivity. Ms Blanchard has woven extensive research into a highly readable and gripping novel. It is a real page turner and despite being a journey into a world of obsession and extremes , it is highly readable and engaging throughout. Highly recommend and eagerly await this author’s next book.

A moving read. Highly recommended

By Alan Green on 9 December 2015

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Well written emotional book that I thoroughly enjoyed reading. A highly recommended read

Really great read. I couldn’t put the book down

By miss dm perez on 9 December 2015

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Really great read. I couldn’t put the book down. I really liked the authors writing style and hope she writes more books

book on a difficult and taboo subject with a good story wrapped around it

By E on 27 November 2015

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A very well written and researched book on a difficult and taboo subject with a good story wrapped around it.

Loved it!

By LW2006 on 21 November 2015

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I thoroughly enjoyed this thought provoking story on which many consider a taboo subject. It had me gripped, a true page turner. Well written, full of emotion and the subject was handled honestly and with true emotion. Excellent debut novel.

She has treated it with sensitivity and great understanding, with touches of humour to lighten its …

By Andrea Emblin on 17 November 2015

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Lucinda Blanchard has bravely chosen an unusual and controversial subject for her debut novel. She has treated it with sensitivity and great understanding, with touches of humour to lighten its serious theme. ‘Swaying’ was a page turner for me and I would thoroughly recommend it!

A great read

By Emma Jay on 12 November 2015

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Loved this book. I cried and laughed, with the main character and felt a multitude of feelings towards the other characters in the story too. Well written and interesting subject matter.

but with a few more touches I think this could be a really great first novel

By BooksEverywhere on 26 October 2015

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A really gripping debut – such an interesting concept. The story kept me reading and interested from start to finish. I think it needs some tightening grammatically and also some of the characters could do with widening out a little, but with a few more touches I think this could be a really great first novel. I’d definitely read any further books by this author and would love to hear more about what happens with these characters beyond this book.

Excellent

By Amazon Customer on 23 October 2015

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A subject I never really new existed. Excellent book, which I found hard to put down.

Heart-stopping

By Joan Ellis on 15 October 2015

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This book will stay with you for a very long time. A mother longs for a daughter to complete her family. But Mother Nature has other ideas. Time for some scientific intervention. But we’re talking real lives, real emotions here. Nothing is certain, nothing is clear cut. A tense, taut read. Climb aboard the emotional roller coaster. It’s heart-stopping

Engaging writing

By Amazon Customer on 13 October 2015

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The author tackles a difficult subject well, showing the obsessive nature of the main character’s longing for a baby girl and the destructive impact this has on her relationships. It is an admirable debut novel that shows a distinctive writing style that engages the reader and pulled me in to a world I knew absolutely nothing about.

but I am glad I ‘gave it a go’

By Amazon Custome ron 23 January 2016

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A friend lent me this book and I was slightly reticent as it was not the sort of book I normally read, but I am glad I ‘gave it a go’.
I was unaware that the subject existed to the extent it did and found it interesting and quite thought provoking. It was extremely
well written and quite enthralling, especially the last couple of chapters.

A very enjoyable read

By Hardwick on 19 January 2016

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A fascinating and well researched novel. A woman who is desperate for her next baby to be a girl explores various methods that are available in order to achieve her goal. Her desire however, becomes so obsessive that it begins to take over her whole life. At one point it becomes too much for her long suffering husband.
The subject is controversial but the author has manged to tackle it with great sensitivity.
Highly recommended.

Good read

By sue flynn on 19 January 2016

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Such a different book to the ones i usually read, i got stuck right into this straight away, its hard to feel sympathy when they can have healthy children, when some people cant have any, but obviously she had such an obsession with having a little girl.I have took a star off because i wasn’t happy about the decision she made in the end(i don’t want to give any spoilers )All in all a really good and interesting read.

Could not put it down

By Kindle Customer on 17 January 2016

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What a fab book! Could not put it down … It played like a film in my minds eye! It took me on a rollercoaster of emotions, something a book hasn’t done for a long time!

Swaying is a great read that is well written with very well developed .

By Lorna Quinn on 15 January 2016

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Swaying is a great read that is well written with very well developed characters. Gender disappointment is a topic I have never encountered in a novel before which made for interesting reading. I would definitely recommend.

Very good read

By D. Grant on 14 January 2016

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The story deals with a subject matter that I really didn’t know existed: swaying. It is an emotional and sympathetic look at the way obsessions effect those closest to you.

Swaying by Lucinda Blanchard

By Poochesnpuss on 6 January 2016

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Enjoyed this book very much – a different theme to normal and interesting as well…a great debut novel! Any woman who wants/wanted to chose the gender of their child will appreciate and understand the emotions and pain involved…very touching.

Heart gripping novel

By Amazon Customer on 3 January 2016

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Excellent and well written first novel for Lucinda. This explains the heart ache that so many women must go through when conceiving their child – “Swaying” is definitely something I have been educated about. Looking forward to your next read!

Emotionally draining

By A Reader’s Perspective on 1 January 2016

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I have just finished reading this and I feel emotionally drained…

When I first found out about this book, I had my reservations about reading it, since I knew it would hit a sore nerve. However, since I had met the author at the local library and I saw it on a KDP Countdown deal for only 99p I thought I’d give it a go.

Now, I have to say up front this is a very hard review to write. I know that getting a review that is a 3 may be considered by many authors to be a failure BUT let’s be clear that this book is well written and an incredible debut. The problem is the subject-matter was one I found hard to stomach for personal reasons.

The premise of this story is about swaying the odds to have a girl not a boy.

When I found out I was having a baby I was over the moon and frankly did not care what it was. My parents were desperate for a boy and got three girls! When I found out I had had a boy after a difficult caesarian section I was overjoyed. But, in this book the character, Char, goes into a meltdown.

Char’s relationship with her husband is so strange and I did not like him one bit. I could understand he was frustrated by her reaction, but I could not see what was special about their relationship. Ultimately, this is why we have children, isn’t it? To have a family? I found their relationship hard to understand…

Then when she falls pregnant again after “swaying attempts” she again finds out its a boy. Now, at this point I’ll admit that I had a girl – after another horrendous caesarian experience! Again, personally, I was glad that I was fine and that the baby was okay – the girl bit was a bonus (although a part of me felt bad for my son not having a brother)!

In this story, Char is scarred… she loves her boys but wants her girl!

I know of many couples who have had to resort to IVF and then adoption to have children and I find the whole premise of this book hard to swallow. However, I admire the author for tackling this head on and giving us an insight into the world others live in. Unfortunately, the damage caused by these obsessions is not always irreversible.

I felt so sad when events unfolded and will not say more to not give too many spoilers. There are so many children looking for a good home in England at the moment. Is going to the expense of having a child, or in this case swaying, worth it? The pain caused by the need to have the perfect baby is surely not worth it… Parenthood is about more than having the perfect child. I know I always wonder how other parents do what they do, and many look at me wondering how I do what I do, and you know what? We all do our best.

In China, I believe parents prefer boys, so obviously in every culture, your personal upbringing, circumstances, etc, dictate what you view to be ideal. No-one ever seems satisfied! I missed my career for many years…

I am glad I read the book and hope you understand why for me it had to be a 3. When you have seen someone lose a child, or be unable to conceive… the sex of the child is irrelevant! Either way, like I said this is an incredible debut novel. I will be interested to see what the author comes up with next.

Unusual and thought-provoking

By Ellie Boot on 29 January 2016

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Once I got past the first few chapters (which I found a bit slow), I couldn’t put this down. It is a sympathetic and insightful look at feelings which I suspect that many people have but suppress in fear of being judged harshly by others who feel that parents should be grateful for any healthy baby. I was aware of gender swaying but had not heard about the extreme methods described in the book.

I only gave it four stars because I thought that the characters could have been developed more and that the author could have checked her grammar before publishing, especially her use of apostrophes!

Loved it from start to finish

By jennie on 27 March 2016

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Wow, captivating from the start…I couldn’t put it down. A fantastic read from a new author. Descriptive and kept me wondering what will come next. Even had a tear in my eye at the end. Would definitely recommend.

Thought provoking

By Mrsp2008 on 24 March 2016

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I was drawn to this book as I experienced gender disappointment with my middle child. Who is a boy! It was quite severe and I could relate to a lot of the feelings in this book. I have never done swaying and tbh I don’t think it would even work but it was interesting reading the lengths people go to to get a certain gender. Saying that I had gender disappointment, which I did, I am also a SMOG smug mother of girls apparently – as I have a daughter either side of my son but I feel incredibly blessed with all 3 of my children, including my son, as any disappointment I felt disappeared the moment I met him! A thought provoking read though and from the heart.

Certainly different

By Phyllis Goodwin on 11 March 2016

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Though historical fiction is my favourite genre, I was drawn to this book by the Cover and the sub-title. Once I started reading I was hooked and wanted to learn about the outcome. It opened my eyes to the dubious advice on this and other subjects on the internet and how gullible people can be manipulated.

It is funny and sad in places but the author shows us a deeper, frightening thread of how an obsession can destroy our relationships and in some cases can lead to disaster. The book is well written and I would recommend it, especially to anyone who may believe that scientific or non- scientific ideas can solve a personal problem.

a well thought out book…

By Amazon Customer on 2 March 2016

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This book was well written and thought out…a really interesting read with twists and turns…kept my interest until the end…

Well researched but controversial subject….

By e brown on 25 February 2016

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This story, which follows two women attempting to ‘Sway’ their chances at having a daughter through gender selection methods, might not be a subject for everyone, but the author, Lucinda, appears to have researched the subject really well. I think therefore that the novel would be a must for anyone interested in this process; alas, for me, it just provoked anger.

What an amazing book!

By stephanie on 9 February 2016

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What an amazing book!! I wish I had this book while I was silently suffering with my own personal gender disappointment. Gender disappointment ans swaying is very real and society unfortunately makes us feel like bad parents so we often suffer in silence. Swaying is helping get the word out there that this is not the case. Thank u lucinda for writing this beautiful novel! I look forward to reading every one of your books

Interesting book but frustrating.

By lena on 2 February 2016

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This was an interesting one for me as I’m the mum of two boys, and happily so. I was completely unfazed when my second son was born and it didn’t even cross my mind that I’d lost my chance of a mother-daughter bond. Therefore, I found that I disliked Char from the start and I was glad that Ian left her. I found myself desperately hoping she wouldn’t get a daughter as it would all fall too nearly into place and prove she was ‘right’ to make the amount of fuss she did. None of the characters were likeable. Bells was a vile creature, Ian should have stood up to Char earlier, and Rose and the mother should gave told her to pull herself together.

Great read

By Mrs W. on 1 February 2016

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I really enjoyed this book , it got my emotions going happy angry sad , but to me this is a good read if it can make you feel like that , I would recommend this I didn’t even know this really existed great read

I was swayed

By Patsy Collins on 1 February 2016

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This book was a selection in a book club I’ve just joined and I wasn’t entirely sure if I’d like it. Not having kids myself I didn’t expect to care much for a character desperate to have a girl rather than a boy. I found I did care about her though. Not so much about which sex her babies were, but about her physical and emotional health and about her relationships with her family and friends.

Serious issues are raised in the book and some terribly sad things happen, but overall this isn’t a grim or depressing story. It’s emotional and involving and even funny at times.

Well researched

By sherpa on 31 January 2016

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A very well written book that held my attention throughout. The subject matter was very interesting and well researched.Frightening how an obsession can take over a life and make us blind to what we have.

Five Stars

By Kerri on January 17, 2016

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Great story! Something a lot of women can relate to.

I have talked to hundreds of ladies with gender desire and gender disappointment (which is still such a taboo subject

By Becky on November 6, 2015

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I have been apart of the “nub theory world” for over 6 years now. Ingender to private forums online to my own site babynub. I have talked to hundreds of ladies with gender desire and gender disappointment (which is still such a taboo subject, looking to change that!) From having GD myself, this book hits home. I would love to put as a favorable research on babynbub for others seeking to get their desires. Love reading, great story and such honest and frank writing. Enjoyed reading this!!

An engaging read

By Amazon Customer on October 13, 2015

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The author tackles a difficult subject well, showing the obsessive nature of the main character’s longing for a baby girl and the destructive impact this has on her relationships. It is an admirable debut novel that shows a distinctive writing style that engages the reader and pulled me in to a world I knew absolutely nothing about.

A proper page turner

By Dan on September 26, 2015

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What a great book! I couldn’t put it down from the moment I started and quickly became attached to the well thought out characters and the problems they faced.

Being a male with 2 children (1 of each) It hadn’t crossed my mind about Gender Disappointment, I can certainly sympathise now.

I recommend this book to everyone as it tells a good story with plenty of twists.

Explores different points of view and emotions in a taboo subject

By lynda gr on September 9, 2015

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I really enjoyed this book. Very well written and thought provoking. The author explores different points of view and emotions about this taboo subject. I would highly recommend.

This book was amazing as I’m trying to conceive and too desire a …

By Yoeshua De Young on February 12, 2016

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This book was amazing as I’m trying to conceive and too desire a daughter I have 3 sons this book made me realize babies are blessings boys or girls it’s women suffering from all sorts of depression from gender disappointment to infertility so as I look ahead I’m grateful for the opportunity to be a mother of whatever god see for me great read!!!!

5.0 out of 5 stars Emotional, hard-hitting and one hell of a good story. Highly recommended by this top ranked reviewer.

By Booklover Catlady Reviews on 3 December 2016

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Wow! What a tremendously good first novel and it has a special place on my list this year. It’s my 222nd book read and reviewed which was my book read target for 2016!It deserves a special spot too. It is also in my list of shortlisted books for my Top Ten Books of 2016.

This book impacted me emotionally in a big way. Oh boy! What a roller coaster of feelings as I journeyed side by side with the characters in this special book.I felt anger, disgust, frustration, shock, worry, sadness, grief, fear, surprise and in two places this book made me cry. Less than 5 books in my lifetime of reading thousands have moved me that much.

Swaying. Heard of it? No, me neither. Swaying is numerous different methods of trying to sway your body into conceiving a girl or boy. To try to influence the final outcome. For some, including our main star Charlotte this becomes an obsession. It totally stunned me the lengths that she would go to AND that in real life there are women chatting on forums about their methods, tips, plans, desires and heartbreak.

All because a mother desperately wants one gender over another. This goes beyond just hoping for a happy healthy baby. Happiness depends on the sex of the baby. Shockingly I entered a world where if the wrong sex is conceived, sometimes that baby is discarded. Faulty, useless, the wrong gender.

Oh man! I felt anger and annoyance at some of these women. I wanted to bang their heads together. Yet the author still managed to have me feel empathy and compassion for them. Astonishing. It’s a book where, like me, you might fluctuate on how you feel about most characters.

Charlotte is married to Ian and her obsession with Swaying permeates every single waking moment of their lives. Can you imagine? The sheer intensity of that. Sometimes with obsession comes a price to pay.That price can be really high. This is a book that tackles real human emotions – raw and exposed.

It covers friendships and their influence on us, both good and bad and how we go through so much with close friends. It’s HARD to still hold your best friend’s hand when they make life choices you are opposed to. Very hard. It’s all in this book.

Written with a flowing pen and an easy to read and absorb style, Swaying pulled me in and I picked up the book to read at every opportunity I got. The cats woke me for food at 4am. Who cares? I’m awake now – I can see what’s happening in the book! I finished this one very quickly.

This is a book I highly and eagerly recommend for book clubs as discussion about it will be lively and no doubt opinions will be different. It tackles issues of ethics, morals, choices, love, betrayal, heartbreak, joy, life and death. I’m going to be sure it’s read in my new “real life” book group I’m starting in January 2017.

What a journey this was. Lucinda researched her stuff about gender swaying, I got an education from that. I had no idea people did this! I had no idea the gender of a baby was so important to someone that they’ll go to extreme lengths to get what they want. My heart broke for the babies who were the “not wanted gender”. Holy crap. Imagine. Takes us into some cultures in other countries but this book is set in the United Kingdom.

Pop this book in your to-read list. Better yet, it’s for sale right now on Amazon. Buy it for a Christmas gift for your best friend, your mum, your sister, your grandmother. This is a wonderful yet challenging women’s fiction novel.

An easy 5 stars from me for Swaying. I took far too long to read it but I’m glad it’s got that special 222nd spot! Any books I read between now and 31st December are bonus reads. Loved this novel!

I received a copy of this book from the author, who waited patiently for her turn amongst the millions of books I read. I got a little nudge now and then. I’m glad of that. All review opinions are my own and this is a totally unbiased book review.

Oh! I adore the cover of this book too. Perfect fit once you’ve read the book. So, who is going to read it? Hands up?

Page Turner

By Becky phillips on 24 November 2016

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Couldn’t put this down! Loved the characters. When’s the next one??

A unique storyline you will NOT want to miss

By Jothebookgirl on 14 November 2016

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Just when you think you’ve read every story plot there is to read, along comes Swaying. Swaying means in once instance; to influence a person or course of action. In this case Charlotte and Ian want to start their family. Char becomes pregnant and she really REALLY wants a girl. She researches to see if there are measures to be taken that would sway her odds to having a girl. Well, according to web searches, blogs and communicating on sites with other mothers who have this same desire, there is! The problem is that it’s a very complicated and expensive process. Not to mention unhealthy as Char loses so much of her body weight due to the stringent diet. She meets Bella on one of the sites and they become close. Bella has two sons and will do anything, yes as you will read, anything to have a baby girl. Now Char has encouragement which she really doesn’t get from her family, husband included. They try, but deep down they feel this is just nonsense. Ian who devotedly loves his wife wants to support her but he has to be on the diet too and provide many sperm samples for his wife to spin, separate and examine under a microscope. This gets old fast and puts a gap between them.

This author has obviously done much research on the subject of swaying and gender disappointment. In this process she has written a most intriguing novel of mystery, disappointment, sadness, tragedy, and mother love. I gave it four stars instead of five because I thought the ending was… But if I comment I’m afraid it will create a spoiler. Bottom line, You will find yourself turning pages or swiping your device rapidly to find out what will happen next.

Great read

By Amazon Customer on 10 November 2016

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Read this book quickly- was a funny and emotional story, full of surprising turns. Would recommend to anyone, but possibly better suited to women.

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent

By Carol Drinkwater on 7 January 2017

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A very thought provoking read, I didn’t realise that women went to these lengths to get a certain sex of baby.

I was lucky enough to download this book when it was on free offer but I can thoroughly recommend if you want a different sort of read and I will read more from Lucinda.

4.0 out of 5 stars A good read

By Angie from Brighton on 28 December 2016

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Swaying is not in my usual genre but it’s good to try different things. I did not realise swaying existed and am impressed by the amount of research the author must have done. Charlotte’s obsession with wanting a daughter rules her life and you wonder if she will ever succeed, or if her husband will put up with her fixation on using all the different methods she learns about. The dialogue flows well, leading the reader on to hoping all ends well. A good read.

4.0 out of 5 stars An ok read

By D Ward on 14 December 2016

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An ok read not my normal kind of thing but I did enjoy reading it and I learnt just how some women long for a girl and the lengths they will go to, to conceive one.

5.0 out of 5 stars Engrossing!

By HappyReader on March 13, 2017

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Swaying is the debut novel for the author. Well-written, captivating, well-plotted and paced, with full and rich characters- it’s everything readers want in a book. the cover is amazing! Whether readers are interested in the topic is a different matter. To some, “swaying” may be controversial. Other people may see “swaying” as a natural option. “Swaying” may also be seen to be a farce, a rip-off. Some readers may see the heroine, Charlotte as plucky, brave and determine. Once again, other readers may find Charlotte and her new friend Bella to be obsessed and even crazy. If you don’t know, “swaying” is the idea that a woman and man can “sway” the gender of their child before it is conceived by modifying their diet and by using ovulation times, and even more advance medical procedures. Charlotte has always dreamed of having a girl. She wants to have the same relationship with her child, as she did with her mother. When we meet Charlotte, she has given birth to her first child, a son. She learns to love him, but her desire for a baby girl grows. Thanks to the internet, she learns about swaying and meets a local woman on one of the chat rooms who is swaying, too. At first, Charlotte’s husband Ian goes along with the swaying procedures, but he gets tired of the odd diet, and the microscope and lab equipment needed to monitor sperm. Charlotte becomes more and more engrossed with the project and Bella her friend, will stop at nothing. Readers- even if you are conflicted about swaying, this is a fascinating story about “gender disappointment” and how a choice or desire can change many lives. This would be a great book for a book club to choose and discuss.

5.0 out of 5 stars Swaying is a well researched and exciting novel about choosing the sex of your baby. Not to be missed.

By Piers Rowlandson on February 27, 2017

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Swaying, for those not familiar with reproductive terminology, is a term used to mean swaying the odds of having a baby of the sex you want in your favour. Writing a novel about such a very controversial and emotive subject is an extremely brave move. Battle lines are likely to be drawn up on both sides of the argument and very strong opinions declared. This is not a novel for the faint hearted. The author, having meticulously researched the subject, wades courageously into a sea of strife and does not duck the issues. The story is cleverly constructed around two women and their long-suffering husbands. Both women are desperate to have a girl, having already had a boy, or in Bella’s case two boys. The motivation is complex and as the story line continues the difference between Char who remains open and honest throughout and her more devious counterpart, Bella becomes more and more stark. There are issues around replacing a lost female sibling and longing for a future where mother and daughter can share things that would be impossible with a boy, and the colour pink. The husbands are both astonishingly devoted, but not surprisingly this behaviour puts and enormous strain on their marriages. From the point of view of the two women life becomes the stuff of nightmares because of their obsession. This is a courageous first novel, and very well written. Not to be missed.

5.0 out of 5 stars A beautifully written and compelling story

By Fiona Trowbridge on February 23, 2017

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In her debut novel, Lucinda Blanchard has created believable and unforgettable characters whose ordinary lives are thrown into disarray when trying for a baby. We follow their emotionally charged relationships on a rollercoaster ride along a fast-moving, easy to read journey over several years.

I knew nothing about gender swaying before I read this book but I could feel Charlotte’s desperation for a girl in Blanchard’s writing of this feisty, gutsy and vulnerable character.

Minor characters like the mother-in-law, add little surprises along the way keeping the book moving at a compelling tempo and difficult to put down.

Thoroughly enjoyed it and looking forward to more writing by Lucinda Blanchard

5.0 out of 5 stars Relatable, enjoyable.

By Megan Kendall on January 22, 2017

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Love this book! Totally relatable as I just had my 3rd daughter and am longing for a boy! Very well written. I read this in one day. I couldn’t put it down!

5.0 out of 5 stars An excellent read, so so good!!

By Lynn S.on December 29, 2016

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This book was so much more than I expected! Rather than any sort of how-to guide, it was actually a gripping, fascinating, fictional tale that I simply could NOT put down!! It was well written and so enjoyable. I would highly recommend anyone read this book that is interested in gender swaying or just wants to read a great book!

4.0 out of 5 stars Must read!

By Jothebookgirl on November 10, 2016

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Just when you think you’ve read every story plot there is to read, along comes Swaying. Swaying means in once instance; to influence a person or course of action. In this case Charlotte and Ian want to start their family. Char becomes pregnant and she really REALLY wants a girl. She researches to see if there are measures to be taken that would sway her odds to having a girl. Well, according to web searches, blogs and communicating on sites with other mothers who have this same desire, there is! The problem is that it’s a very complicated and expensive process. Not to mention unhealthy as Char loses so much of her body weight due to the stringent diet. She meets Bella on one of the sites and they become close. Bella has two sons and will do anything, yes as you will read, anything to have a baby girl. Now Char has encouragement which she really doesn’t get from her family, husband included. They try, but deep down they feel this is just nonsense. Ian who devotedly loves his wife wants to support her but he has to be on the diet too and provide many sperm samples for his wife to spin, separate and examine under a microscope. This gets old fast and puts a gap between them.

This author has obviously done much research on the subject of swaying and gender disappointment. In this process she has written a most intriguing novel of mystery, disappointment, sadness, tragedy, and mother love. I gave it four stars instead of five because I thought the ending was… But if I comment I’m afraid it will create a spoiler. Bottom line, You will find yourself turning pages or swiping your device rapidly to find out what will happen next.

4.0 out of 5 stars I enjoyed this book

By A Customer on September 14, 2016

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This is a subject that appeals to me, personally, and I did like it. I wish there were more books to read on gender desire and gender disappointment.